We have always talked about moving in together, maybe after the two-year mark. We have been going through some struggles lately because the talk of our future came up and we have different ideas about it. I’m 18 years old and my boyfriend of a year and a half is 19.
And the choice is yours as to whether to continue dating someone who strikes you as immature if he disregards your feelings and the feelings of the people he lives with and continues running around his family home in the nude. The choice is his to change his behavior or not, based on knowing how you feel about said behavior. You wouldn’t be telling him he HAS to wear clothes at home or for his Zoom classes you would be sharing how it makes you feel when he doesn’t. It isn’t “body policing” if you are sharing your feelings as opposed to forcing your feelings on him. It makes you think of your boyfriend as immature. Knowing he is conducting his Zoom classes in the buff, with the camera turned off, turns YOU off. That’s valid, and you need to tell him this. YOU don’t like your boyfriend parading around his family home naked because it makes you see him as sexually immature and childish.
KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY GAY XHAMSTER HOW TO
One of the best things you can do for yourself as a 22-year-old young woman is learn how to assertively express yourself, to take ownership of your feelings and to express them confidently not just when you know other people share your thoughts and feelings but even when they don’t. And THAT is the real issue here – YOUR discomfort and the reasons for your discomfort. That may very well be the truth, but that’s not the real issue here, is it? The real issue here is not what his friends or what other people may or may not do after all, I imagine if he polled his friends and they all said that they, too, walk around their family homes naked, you’d still be uncomfortable with your boyfriend doing it. You are telling him that his behavior is “odd” and not what other people do. Instead of saying that YOU are uncomfortable with your boyfriend parading around naked or semi-naked in his family home, in front of his parents and his sister, you are projecting your discomfort onto them. Where you *are* wrong, though, is in not taking ownership of your opinion and not assertively expressing your feelings as your own. You’re not even in the wrong for expressing your opinion. You’re not in the wrong for having an opinion, no. He got mad at me for expressing all of this and told me that I made him seem like a pervert who was forcing himself on his family.Īm I in the wrong? Am I body policing him? - Not a Prude, But I told him that I would respect my family’s wishes if I were making them uncomfortable. But more than that, I feel bad for his elderly mom and his adult sister who have to deal with seeing him in his see-through boxers all the time. I know I would never prance around nude or even in my underwear in front of my dad. It makes him seem like a little boy who doesn’t recognize his sexual maturity.
I love seeing my boyfriend naked, but it’s really unsexy knowing that he’s naked in front of his family all the time. He finally asked his family whether they felt uncomfortable seeing him nude and they admitted that “they wished he would wear more clothes.” I told him that I agreed with them.
Since I pointed out to him that his nudeness was out of the ordinary, he has quizzed his friends about whether they wore clothes at home and was astounded to find that all of them did. He doesn’t even get dressed for college classes and will Zoom in the buff with the camera off, even for one-on-one meetings with professors, which is super unprofessional to me. Since the quarantine started, my boyfriend has barely put on boxers and will laze around in a towel for a whole day. My family is not prudish we just don’t parade around in underwear all the time. A while back I pointed out how odd it was that he was comfortable being buck nude in front of his family, since I had grown up wearing clothes in the house. We have been dating for two years and I live with my parents. My boyfriend is 22 and ever since I have known him, he has been very comfortable being naked or semi-naked in front of his family, which consists of his older sister and his mother.